Friday, August 26, 2005
I miss being single
Haa? No la, of course its not me.
The whole world is getting married, about to get married, almost married or not married but behave like married. Frankly, the novelty has worn off on me, unless its that of a good friend, true friend or real friend. Why? People you hardly talk to once in the last 2 years suddenly remember you.
Anyway, was talking to a friend (soon bride-to-be) who was facing what I call, pre-martial anxiety and pre-bride syndrome. Suddenly she told me she missed being single. I can understand the stress, I can empathise because I was nearly there. But I cannot help her. Its a journey everyone has to walk through if you want to get married.
I know why. You are forced to grow up. Its a different world out there, more responsibilities to carry on your shoulder. It is very much like the difference between courtship, dating and really being in a relationship. You feel as if you cannot breathe because you have to make major decisions about your life. As you source for your lovenest, you feel the financial burden trickling in. For the first time in your life, you think you need a credit-transfer facility.
You think about MILs and FILs. You imagine part of your life dedicated to frequent family gatherings. You imagine gossipy MILs and bitchy relatives, aka your san gu liu po. You basically think about PIL problems even before they appear. Then you think about cooking and lots of housework. You imagine what your other half will be like 20 years down the road. You think you're ready to settle but you reluctantly see your freedom escape from within your palms.
Think about it, you don't have to play guessing games no more.. You know someone loves you enough to want to spend the rest of his life with you. You don't have to wait for the one and only prince charming to drop from the sky. You probably wouldn't be asking questions like what if the next one is better. You don't have to go through all of these again. And best of all, you can whine, be a damsel in distress and you know your hero will save the day. Well, not always, but sometimes.
Maybe, its not too bad afterall.
Posted by LiTTle-FooT at 4:37 PM with 1